I keep seeing stories surrounding Whitney Houston's death from "unnamed sources" who are speaking about Whitney's erratic behavior in the days prior to her passing. I see reports about her finances, her declining health, how Bobby isn't being allowed near Bobbi Kristina because Whitney's family doesn't want him to try to get his hands on her money, how he's not invited to the funeral...so much is being said.
I saw Kelly Price on GMA talking about her now infamous appearance at her pre-Grammy party celebrating Kelly's two Grammy nominations. I saw a woman who spun so much denial it was ridiculous, saying that Whitney appeared sweaty and disheveled because she'd been there for a long time and it was hot and she'd been dancing. Whitney came stumbling out of that party looking about as coherent as Ozzy Ozbourne on his best day dripping blood down her legs with scratches on her arms. Story after story has come out of that party about Whitney's behavior there in the days since she passed. It appears she got into some kind of verbal altercation with a contestant from X-Factor named Stacy Francis that may have stemmed from Francis approaching Ray J who has apparently known her for a long time. During this altercation, reportedly she pushed pregnant R&B singer Keke Wyatt, telling her to get out of her face.
Also, during that party, she was seen drinking heavily and being belligerent. One thing is clear: she wasn't surrounded by the right people. It seems as if all reports from her camp claim she was just fine in the days leading up to her death, that nothing seemed out of sorts. Yes, she liked a drink or two but she didn't go overboard, making excuse after excuse for her behavior. It's clear they are still in denial and making excuses for her, even after her death. While she may not have been doing "hard drugs" as they like to call it, she was on enough pills to cause a pretty dangerous reaction if she wasn't careful. Combine them with even a small amount of alcohol, much less how much she'd reportedly been drinking, and you get what we have here.
Then all these reports about the family blaming ex-husband Bobby Brown for her downfall and not wanting him hear Bobbi Kristina for fear of him trying to get a piece of Whitney's estate. First, reportedly Clive Davis was paying ALL of Whitney's bills for some time prior to her death, Whitney was obviously broke. True and sad, Whitney will be worth more now that she's gone, one look at iTunes should tell you that and Bobbi Kristina will probably end up being a very wealthy young woman in the coming years. But she's his daughter and Whitney was a great love of his life. I understand that everyone grieves in different ways, but to place blame on someone that you have no choice but to acknowledge in your life is just ridiculous.
Whitney was a grown woman who had an addiction long before she met Bobby Brown, in her own words. Continuing to try to blame anyone other that the person responsible for making up her mind every day is pointless. Whitney is still gone, drugs of some kind are probably related, and it still won't be Bobby Brown's fault or anyone else's. What they may be better off doing is asking who let her feel like it was ok to drink as much as she was drinking taking the medications that she was taking. The woman failed a basic physical for a FACELIFT for Heaven's sake! She had no business drinking ANY alcohol - "a drink or two" or not!
I keep saying it, enablers do the devil's work for him and they don't even realize it. Unless an addict has a consequence to consider, the behavior is going to continue. If they run out of people to get money from, if they run out of sofas to sleep on, hotels that allow them, etc., then they have other things to deal with. If they're willing to sink low enough to getting it from the streets, then let them do it. They can't get it if they can't get it. I speak from experience...something I'll talk about more later. But I do know what it's like to live with an addict and what it's like to have to deal with CONSTANT enabling from people who just want to be close to the addict no matter what it takes, not realizing they're KILLING the addict. It ends badly, it did for my father just like it did for Whitney and Michael Jackson. I'm not disrespecting the dead, we're talking about people I adored. What I hope to do is shine a light on not only my take on this, but also a facet of addiction that is so often overlooked, enabling.
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